承受挫敗的勇氣

黃少玲校長

   時間快得連自己都不能察覺。去年畢業典禮就像剛過去一樣,轉眼間又來到另一個典禮了。然而,對中六同學而言,這年卻是漫長的,要挨過文憑試的日子真的不好受吧!大家還要面對放榜帶來的壓力,相信你們必定忐忑不安。人生總不能無風無浪,順風順水。同學完成中學階段後必定要面對升學或就業的抉擇。我總覺得成長路上遇到荊棘,人生才會有色彩。少年早得志並非是一件好事;在父母過分庇護下成長的更難逆境求存。各位同學,今天我很想和你們分享一位美國首席法官在中學畢業禮中的致辭,他的講話內容確實太有意思了!  

     去年,美國首席大法官羅伯茲(John Roberts)獲邀前往兒子就讀的中學發表畢業致辭,他的言論引起媒體及網路瘋傳。他在致詞上不但沒有祝福孩子要有美好的前途,反而是希望台下的學生遭遇「不幸」、「挫敗」甚至是「被背叛」。對中國人來說,身為嘉賓怎能說這些不吉利的說話,俗語說:「大吉利是」。然而,對所有在溫室下成長的年青人,我倒覺得他的話挺有心思。他說:

I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don't take friends for granted. I wish you bad luck again, from time to time, so that you will be conscious of the role of chance in life and understand that your success is not completely deserved, and that the failure of others is not completely deserved either. And when you lose, as you will from time to time, I hope every now and then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is a way for you to understand the importance of sportsmanship. I hope you'll be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others, and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion.

     中國人經常說人生不如意事十常八九,遇到不幸的事實在令人傷痛,不說些安慰人家的說話,還要在人家的痛苦上撒鹽,更是痛上加痛;然而我們不經歷過痛苦,何以學會掙扎求存。古人常云:失敗乃成功之母;又告訴我們割禾便要彎腰,鐵杵也可成針。如果遇到挫敗便心存放棄,怨天尤人;又或只管伸出雙手,待人搶救,那注定你的人生是一團糟罷了!

   各位同學,路總要由自己的腳走下去,鼓起勇氣面對將來,做好準備接受挑戰,這正是你們現在要做的功夫!可惜,今天只做好自己實在是不足夠的。我很喜歡大法官最後給同學的勉語,我也引用他的講辭與大家共勉:

Unless you are perfect, it does not mean don't make any changes. In a certain sense, you should not be yourself. You should try to become something better. People say 'be yourself' because they want you to resist the impulse to conform to what others want you to be. But you can't be yourself if you don't learn who are, and you can't learn who you are unless you think about it.

   我們不僅要做好自己,更要學會做得更好,時刻改善自我,那才能在瞬息萬變的世界裹找到自己的位置,貢獻社會。這正是我們的校訓「立己立人,愛主愛世」的精神,也是我把今次畢業典禮定命為「傳承」的真正意義,但願你們時刻謹記校訓,把這份精神傳承下去,造福家庭、社會,甚至國家。